There seems to be something magical about ones early 40’s.
Have you breezed through your early 40’s without a hitch or a glitch? Bloody lucky if you have!
The majority of 40 somethings that I hang about with have been stressed beyond belief, challenged in many areas that they used to excel in. It seems the lies of society and youth catch up with us by 43 (the polls say we are the most miserable demographic).
The three big lies seem to be :
I am what I do
I am what I have
I am what others think or say about me.
Huh. That sucks. I think I believed all three lies. I’ve believed them so deeply that they are stuck inside my very being, super glued into my soul. I can see them now.. especially after I’ve over reacted to something. Like… when I hangout with super chiros… or I see myself in a window….. or I see a brood of delicious children….
Slowly I am being able to pause between stimulus and response ( thanks Stephen Covey), slowly I am being able to challenge some of my responses to situations. Fight the lies.
I suspect the fatigue and stress of the last few years has help me decide what is truely important and to fight the lies I have always believed… so there is the silver lining to Caspian’s life.
The good news is that the polls report it improves from here!!